Wonderwall.

It's a bit harder to keep up with this blog than I thought. Between working at my lovely job, I sometimes can't find the time to enlighten you guys on my adventures. Or sometimes, I just don't have any idea what to write about. But I think I do now. And Kudos to whoever reads this entire thing.

What is a "Wonderwall?" As most of you know, it's the title of a really popular song by a band named Oasis. Pretty much everyone knows this song, so hopefully I don't have to give you the history on that. But upon listening to the song the other night, it made me wonder.. What IS a wonderwall? A wonderwall, in my opinion is somehow you can count on, and trust to help you reach your full potential. Someone who's gonna save you when it feels like the rest of the world wants to walk out on you. Many people my age claim to "be in love," or have sworn that they have found their "soulmate," but I can't help feeling that these are false beliefs. It's true, love is what you make it... but LOVE is also BLIND. I can't imagine what it feels like to be pretty much "married" at the young age of 20. Sure, there are those who have found true love out there, and I'm not mad about that. But I can't stand to see those who have been in a relationship for a week, but "they are in love," and "Married" as their MySpace status. I don't think people like that know what LOVE is. They don't know YET anyway.

Love isn't something that can be described into a few words. There isn't a recipe for it. But I can tell you what LOVE is NOT. Love is NOT wanting your other half to suffer and be as unhappy as you are. Love is NOT getting mad that your significant other didn't call you when they said they would. Real people know that EVERYONE has priorities, and everyone gets busy sometimes. Now if they NEVER call, ever? That's another story. But Love is NOT NEEDING to be on the phone or with that person 24-7! Besides the fact that it's clingy, it's pathetic. Have your own life! There is nothing wrong with wanting to spend time with the person you're with. But when you start to lose your identity to theirs, and you don't have a sense of SELF anymore, you need to reconsider what you're doing. Also, Love is NOT making your boyfriend or girlfriend choose YOU over their friends or family. We must all learn to co-exist. When it comes to the point that you're making someone pick you like you're playing some sort of pathetic dodgeball game on the school playground, maybe you need to catch a grip.

NOTHING lasts forever.* Almost Nothing. And I mean this in the aspect of.. it's pretty annoying when you have a friend who's all wrapped up in their relationship, and they NEVER have the time for you because they'd rather sit on the couch with their boyfriend or girlfriend like they do every damn night. BUT as soon as the relationship hits the rocks, who's the 1st person they call? YOU. Who's the person that they now expect to devote every waking minute of their lives to making them feel better? YOU. Now, I'm not saying that I won't be there for you if you're going through some tough stuff, because I will. And I understand in most people's heads their relationship comes before their friends. But if you are lucky enough to have friends who care about you, appreciate them! Because "real" people don't come around too often. So be good to your friends, because if they are good ones, they put up with a lot of your bull sh't. In most cases (and experiences I've had), I've had friends who SWORE the relationship was over, and were so heart-broken, and I was there. But as soon as everything "magically" worked out, *poof* my oh-so-heartbroken friend vanished, without even saying "Thank You." And I think that's selfish.

So back to the topic at hand (sorry for ranting, lol), a Wonderwall can be comparable to someone you love, in my opinion. Whether it's a friend, family member, or significant other. But I just think some people have the wrong idea about what love actually is. Flaunting your relationship like it's a bad habit isn't love. Showing off your boyfriend/girlfriend because you're actually PROUD to be with them? That's more like it. I'd rather be single and happy, than in a relationship just because "everyone else is doing it." And there's something way more satisfying about being with someone you WANT, rather than someone you NEED just for the illusion of love. These are the years for us to grow. And it's sad enough to say, but some of us still need to GROW UP.





"LOVE,"

Kendrizzle. :)